Books About Grieving After a Death

1. Surviving the Death of a Sibling: Living Through Grief When an Adult Brother or Sister Dies, by T.J. Wray

T.J. Wray wasn’t prepared to lose her 43-year-old brother, but she really wasn’t prepared for how unacknowledged her feelings as a sibling were. The grief of a spouse, a child, or a parent is a more socially recognized loss, after all. Inspired to share her story, she wrote this book to give practical advice on grieving lost siblings and dealing with insensitive comments from others.

2. It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand, by Megan Devine

“Grief is simply love in its most wild and painful form,” says Megan Devine. “It is a natural and sane response to loss.”

Too often, the journey of grief can focus too much on overcoming it, but that’s not why Devine wrote this book. She debunks the idea of returning to a “normal life” and instead encourages a life alongside grief. Through essays, personal anecdotes, and practical advice, this book is about shifting grief away from a problem to be solved to a natural response to be experienced.

Books for Grieving Spouses

6. Heartbroken: Healing from the Loss of a Spouse, by Gary Roe

Another from grief specialist Gary Roe, Heartbroken is for those suffering the loss of a spouse. In Roe’s deeply personal and easy-to-read book, he takes widowers through the process of grieving a spouse, from managing the roller coaster of emotions, navigating current relationships in the light of loss, and finding necessary support.

Heartbroken is here to remind those who have lost a spouse that while you may feel lonely, you are not alone.

7. Traveling with Ghosts: A Memoir, by Shannon Leone Fowler

Shannon Leone Fowler was backpacking with her fiance, Sean, in Thailand when a box jellyfish, one of the most deadly animals in the world, stung and killed Sean in minutes. The aftermath left Fowler shattered, and she sought to seek solace by traveling the world the way she had hoped to travel with her fiance.

Traveling with Ghosts is one woman’s journey of reflection, recovery, and solace after painful, sudden, loss.

Books on the Science of Grieving

12. The Other Side of Sadness: What the New Science of Bereavement Tells Us About Life After Loss, by George A. Bonanno

We talk about grieving in five stages; denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. We’re often just told to accept and endure, that this is the way grief works. Using research on bereavement across history, psychologist George Bonanno argues that recognizing how other emotions, including joy and relief, can help us process our grief. They may even help us form deeper connections with those around us.

13. The Truth About Grief: The Myth of Its Five Stages and the New Science of Loss, by Ruth Davis Konigsberg

The myth of the five stages of grief is exactly that—a myth. Konigsberg explains that current research doesn’t support this theory at all. Humans, she argues, are surprisingly good at overcoming grief, and there’s no manual for grieving. If you have grief, you are grieving.

In The Truth About Grief, Konigsberg looks at how this myth shaped our cultural identity around grief, as well as how other cultures deal with the pain of losing a loved one. Throughout, one liberating message prevails: there is no wrong way to grieve.

Books on Grieving a Sudden Loss

15. I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One, by Brook Noel & Pamela Blair, Ph.D.

An exploration on sudden death and the devastating effects it can have, Noel and Blair’s book provides an anchor for those looking to recover and rebuild their lives after losing a loved one unexpectedly.

Having experienced sudden grief first hand, these authors debunk common myths around grief and offer advice on not only dealing with difficult situations that arise from losing someone, but also how to understand and comprehend your own pain.

16. When a Friend Dies: A Book for Teens About Grieving & Healing, by Marilyn E. Gootman Ed.D.

No one is prepared to lose a friend, and for teenagers, the experience can be particularly devastating. This book answers questions teenagers might have about their grief, like how long will it last and what are they supposed to feel. It also addresses losing close friends versus acquaintances, as well as losing friends to violence or school shootings.

17. The Year of Magical Thinking, by Joan Didion

One of America’s most iconic writers tackles two close and sudden moments of tragedy in her life: her husband died of a sudden and fatal coronary. Three months later, her daughter, who previously was on life support after facing septic shock related to pneumonia, underwent a six hour surgery to relieve a massive hematoma.

The Year of Magical Thinking was Didion’s attempt to process the “weeks and then months that cut loose any fixed idea I ever had about death, about illness . . . about marriage and children and memory . . . about the shallowness of sanity, about life itself.”

Books on Grieving the Loss of a Child

18. Grieving Dads: To the Brink and Back, by Kelly Farley

Author Kelly Farley wrote this book after his two children passed away. The fathers in this collection of stories are all part of “this terrible, terrible club,” that is universal as much as it is devastating. Some fathers fought their demons and found healing; others are still in the process. Discussing thoughts of suicide, homelessness, and self medication, its not for the faint of heart, but it may be worthwhile for those in similar positions.

Grieving Dads is at times gut-wrenching and despairing, but it’s also about surviving one of the most painful losses someone can experience.

19. Beyond Tears: Living After Losing a Child, by Ellen Mitchell, Rita Volpe, Ariella Long, Phyllis Levine, Madeline Perri Kasden, Barbara Goldstein, Barbara Eisenberg, Lorenza Colletti, Audrey Cohen, and Carol Barkin

Nine mothers share their stories of loss and grief after losing a child. They share what to expect in the first year and beyond, including how devastating trying to answer “How many children do you have” can be. Other stories tackle the difference between mothers and fathers grieving, how it affects surviving children, and how there is no simple answer to “why?”

Children’s Books About Grief

20. The Sad Dragon: A Dragon Book About Grief and Loss, by Steve Herman

There’s a sad dragon who’s upset, angry, and heartbroken over the loss of a loved one. What do you do? How do you help him cope? This book teaches children about death, grieving, and how to comfort a friend dealing with emotions they may not have words for.

21. Caterpillars Can’t Talk: A Children’s Story About Love, Loss and Transformation, by Kris Fenton Siwek

While walking in the woods, thinking about his recently deceased dad, a young boy named Andy meets a talking caterpillar named Clyde, who listens as Andy talks about how much he loved his dad and how much he misses him. This book is a tender, gentle way to teach children about loss, grief, and how our friends can make us feel better if we let them.